So often I find myself laughing hysterically at something my husband said. Whether it's a joke or something silly that he said wrong. What's great is that he will always laugh right along with me and it often will become an inside joke. Yesterday is a perfect example. I was trying to tell him something that needed to be fixed (or something) and his quick response to me was "don't stick your own eye before you stick someone else's" referring to Matthew 7:3-5 "Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' and behold, the log is in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye". It was funny, first because he was so off, but second because it really didn't apply to our conversation. Nonetheless, for the rest of the day it seemed to come up. It was just really funny and both enjoyed the joke.
It is so important in a marriage to be able to laugh with each other. Certainly we don't want to be just laughing AT each other. That's not fun for anyone. But it's important to laugh and enjoy each other. Respecting one another is key for this to happen; communication is vital. There have been times that we do not always communicate well. If I'm tired or frustrated with something else, I may say something in a bad tone or even with an attitude (really, me?, lol) Then there's his response to it, which isn't always great because it was a response to how I said it and not what I said. It's ok for this to happen sometimes. Noone is perfect and there will be those kind of days. But don't let it continue on. If you are the first person that was wrong, apologize and restate your words. If you are the second person that was wrong, you can still apologize. Have you ever just needed a hug to simmer you down? That may be just what you or your spouse needs at that particular moment. That saying that's something about hurting the ones you love? It's probably because they are the closest to you and you know they will still love you. Much like a child misbehaves for his parent and not for a teacher or sitter. There's that uncertainty of the reaction for someone that is not close. Well if you are as close to your spouse as my husband and I are, you know that anger and frustration often comes towards you. But communication and respect will overcome those moments of weakness :) . Never let the sun go down on your anger, as Ephesians 4:26 says, "do not give the devil a foothold" (4:27). Of course it would be best not to miscommunicate and always say what you mean how you mean it. But since we are all human and all sinners, this isn't easy. We must then just love each other, study The Word, and trust The Lord. Then maybe, just maybe, we'll be able to laugh with each other and have fun. :-)
Has this ever happened to you? If it has, leave a comment or response. I'd like to hear from you.